The Missing Piece

Finding the one who’s perfect for you can seem daunting, but it can be a lot easier than most people think, just as long as you know how to find the one the right way. The eternal pursuit of finding the one is a painful and confusing ride, especially if you feel lost along the way. Many of us don’t really try to find the one. You may just get into a relationship with the first person who fancies you. And months or years later, you may find yourself disappointed with the experience of love or may give up on ever finding the one who can make you happy. Finding the one who’s perfect for you is a game of chance.

The lucky ones get to kiss the right frog the very first time they date someone. For a few others, there may be a series of frogs that have to be kissed. If you really want to understand the secret behind knowing how to find the one, you need to look out and meet a lot of great people. And somewhere along the way, you’d definitely meet someone who’ll take your breath away, sooner or later.

Are you learning from your past dates? Have you tried to get someone to go out with you or have you been to a few unsuccessful dates lately? What have you learnt from it? If you want to find the one who’s perfect for you, you need to try and figure out the type of person you’d want to be in a relationship with. After a string of dates where you don’t really like anyone, you may be able to pinpoint a few of the characteristics of your pervious dates that you like and didn’t like. At the same time, have you ever been turned down by someone after a date? Have you worked on making sure it doesn’t happen again? Most people don’t like to correct themselves even if the same flaw keeps repeating itself in every date. While there may be an occasional picky annoying date, all of them can’t be wrong. Use your dating experience and try to find out where the date went wrong and what kind of a person you really want in your life.

Don’t be desperate; You may have been looking for someone to date for a long time. But don’t let anyone else but you know that. Sometimes, it’s easy to get excited and get pushy when you’re on a date after a while. Singles who are truly looking for love try to take things slow. But if you find that you’re throwing yourself at your date and are willing to do anything on the first date itself, there’s a risk of being seen as too desperate or easy to get.

At the same time, your date may think you’re only looking for a fling and not a serious relationship because you’re being so overenthusiastic. Ever found yourself getting dumped after a one night stand or a few days of sex? Chances are, you’ve been playing the game rather desperately.

Don’t change yourself constantly just to fit in; Do you give yourself a total makeover all the time or try to change your behavior each time you have a new date or get into a new relationship? Always remember that you don’t have to change yourself just so your date can like you. Your new look or behavior may work for a few weeks, but that façade of a personality that you’re using is not really you. If you want a perfect partner, you don’t have to change yourself just to make someone like you more. If you have to do that, then the relationship is not really meant for you. You need a lover who likes you for the person that you are.

If you want to know how to meet the one, learn to be yourself. You can’t constantly change yourself just to please a date. By doing that, you’ll lose your own individuality and your happiness too.

Have a positive attitude; It’s easy to lose your confidence and hope when you find that none of your recent dates are going in the direction that you want. But have a little faith in the game of love. Don’t be so frustrated with yourself that it shows. Falling in love is important, but you can lead a happy and single life too. Stop worrying about finding love so desperately that your failures start to reveal itself in the form of negativity. Be happy in your life and have fun, even if you’re still stuck a single. As long as you’re meeting new people and trying to find opportunities to date, it will work in your favor soon enough.

But until then, have fun on every date and be positive in your life. For all you know, your infectious positivity and enthusiasm could bring the one you’re looking for closer to you. On the other hand, even if you do meet the one who can keep you happy forever, your negativity may cloud you from realizing it or even making a good impression.

Try to be a better person; Get this clear. Don’t try to change, but try to be a better YOU. When you’re standing in line at a coffee shop or dining at a restaurant, have you ever seen someone of the same sex who looks really confident and charming? You can be that person too. Work on the little things that hold you back and reveal a radiant YOU to the world. Be confident, cheerful and positive. It’ll make you look good and impress the opposite sex and draw them to you.

Time is endless, and change is inevitable. We might not know how or when are we going to meet that special someone. Just enjoy the ride and do what is right.

Truly,
Marc

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Life’s Little Voices

Do you ever hear yourself saying “I don’t know what to do with my life”? I’ve been there, and I know it’s a terrible feeling. Life is a strange feeling. At times, we’re happy, and at other times we find ourselves asking “I don’t know what to do with my life”. Let me try to emphasize some keys for you to understand your life better, through my eyes. We humans have been gifted with brains and ideas, but at times, I wonder if we’d all be better off dumber, like a pet cat that lazes all day, or some wild animal in the forest. Of course, life isn’t easy even for animals, but ignorance is bliss. And it’s so much easier to just be nomads, worrying about nothing but foraging for food, looking for a place to sleep, and someone to sleep with. Wouldn’t that just be so darn simple! Most of the times, we just don’t know what to do. We’re lost, clueless and completely blanked out. But moving on in life is easier if you give hope a chance.

“I don’t know what to do with my life” Do you find yourself lying awake at night and telling yourself you don’t know what to do, and thinking about all the years that have slipped by so quietly? I do. I’m sure that thought flits through your mind every now and then. Countless nights and tosses and turns in our beds later, we’re still left with that same hollow feeling in the chest when we’re all alone. I don’t know what to do with my life. Where am I going? Am I doing the right thing? Is my life hard? Why do the others have their lives cut out so easy? I’m thankfully a gifted sleeper and I can barely lie awake in bed for more than a few minutes, if I’m trying to get some sleep. But before I close my eyes late at night or sometimes at morning, I wonder if my day was worth it. I ask myself if I’ve worked hard enough to deserve a good night’s sleep. Even if I’ve worked an 9-10-hour per day, my answer still remains the same. Nope. I don’t deserve to sleep peacefully. Because I still have so much more to do. So many more dreams and innumerable aspirations, wishes and hopes. The very things that I’m clutching on like straws in a wind, hoping they don’t blow away into oblivion.

Actors and directors look forward to an Academy award to feel satisfied that they’ve excelled in their field, and likewise, in the research and literary fields, they have different awards. But in my life, I still haven’t won any laurels. So am I not good enough? Or have I just not been recognized? Or does it mean I don’t know what to do with my life? How to be successful in life? I’d know that I’ve excelled in my field when I’ve made a difference to lives, when the world sees me, not as an idle man lost in his mind, but as a thinker and a dreamer.

Most people think that the word ‘dreamer’ is an insult, but I think it’s a compliment. No one has ever made their way through the world without a dream. The real world is a dark damp place, and your dream is the only light that takes you further. And passion is the jet-fuel to your dreams! I’ve lost my passion one too many times in my life, and at times, I’ve paid the price. But my passion comes back to me every night, when I think about my life, and when at I stare at the stars.

I love staring at stars, because somewhere in the darkness, my dream shines, just like that star. The sky is so vast, it seems to have the space and the emptiness to carry all my burdens and worries. I look at my favorite star every night, and I realize I can still see my dream, even if it is a million miles away. I also feel like I’ve lost my dreams. Do you feel the same way? When you sleep at night, and think about everything you’ve done, do you feel you’ve reached where you’ve wanted to be? Most importantly, are you happy being you?

These are just a few questions that no one else can answer for you, nor can you tell your answer to anyone else. You wouldn’t be able to get it out in words, and others wouldn’t understand it even if you try telling them. When you’re lost and don’t know what to do with your life, it’s alright to take a step back and sit down. Take time to ask yourself some questions. And really, spend time asking yourself those secret questions you’ve always overlooked.

• If you had a choice, what would you rather be doing?
• Why are you lost?
• Is life unfair?
• Are you willing to try harder?

These are some of the questions that I usually asked myself and probably will reveal the world to which we belong. You feel lost and feel like you don’t know what to do only when you’re helpless. It’s like you’re in a forest and a tiger chases you to the cliff. What can you do? You’re helpless and lost. You have two choices. You can go down on your knees and wait for the tiger to eat you. Or you can try to fight or run. Now I’m not saying you’ll win for sure, but all I’m saying is that even when you’ve lost all hope, just for a few mad seconds, you’re willing to give everything you’ve got, and you’re going to try something.

Humans have unbelievable hidden strengths when the mind senses the need. Proven incidents show that a man can lift a two ton car with his bare hands to save his son trapped underneath the car, and innumerable other cases. You have the power to move on, and you definitely have the mad, wild passion and determination to do something in life. But for all that to happen, you have to believe. You have to believe that you can change your world forever.

When you don’t know what to do, try to listen to the voices in your head. If you could choose any profession in the whole wide world, any designation, no strings attached, where would you see yourself? Think over it, ponder and linger over the same words. They will change your life. Yes, I thought about it too. I asked myself what I would really want to do, if I could be anything I wanted to be. I thought hard, and I could get just one answer in my mind. I wanted to be a writer, a speaker, and a person who wants to be remembered as a thinker. I had done the right thing, I listened to the voices in my head. The journey may be hard, but your dream helps absorb the pain of all the thorns and the jagged rocks in your path.

I’m still on my way, still wondering about the gargantuan mountains and giants that threaten me on all sides. I’m afraid to look too far ahead, just in case I’m overwhelmed with a false sense of security, each time I see a mirage. There are many troubling thoughts in my head, I contemplate over the different paths to my destination, especially with so many hurdles on my path, but then I remember the voices in my head. I trust them with all my heart. I push myself ahead.

So what would you rather be doing now? Are you listening to the voices in your head? That one thought could change your world. Don’t stop thinking about it, until you hear a firm voice in your head. And when you hear it, follow every word it says.

It’s not easy to hear the elusive voices, but when you lie in bed, late at night or on before you take your good night rest, and you listen hard, you would hear them. Those voices can console you, reassure you, help you make decisions, and give you solace. Ever heard of the phrase, ‘think it over your sleep? To most people, it means getting some rest and thinking about it when the mind is fresh, but to a true thinker, it’s listening to the voices inside the head.

Don’t give up when you don’t know what to do. All of us get lost in life, at some point or the other. But that’s not the end of the world. Are you broke? Are you lost in life? Are you depressed that you aren’t getting the one you love? Are you stressed that life isn’t turning out how you hoped it would? Well, my dear readers and friends, look around you. This is life, and it’s moving on. And remember all those days when you used to be a child and thought assignments and school crushes were the biggest problems in the world? You got through it, didn’t you?

Don’t you remember telling yourself “I don’t know what to do with my life” even back then? But look at you, you’ve moved on. When life gives you lemons, you can make lemonade. Or you can come up with something better to do with lemons. But for crying out loud, do something with those lemons haha! Life is confusing, and you don’t know your future. But when you hear yourself saying “I don’t know what to do with my life”, remember the little voice in your head and take the next step move on into a better future.

Yours,
Marc

The Next Step To Success an Epilogue

It’s easy to wish for the stars, but it takes more than wishes to be successful.

The strength to move your feet comes from within. Many men and women have lost their hearts, have had their egos shattered, bitten dust and given up chasing the elusive success in life.

Do not look behind. There are men and women that have tried and lost. But again, there have also been a few who have weathered the storm, walked into the deepest crevices, dug out and stood before the light basking in their successful achievements. It’s easy to sit back and be content, but then what is the difference between you and the billion other people who live and die on the face of this planet, doing nothing more but weighing it down, and wishing to be more successful in life? You have the power to go on, and make a difference. The man or woman who has sweated blood and worn their feet has always reached their personal mountain top.

When you think of taking that next step, it might be a daunting task, but the person who wants to move ahead trusts himself or herself and takes a chance. And the person who keeps looking back over their shoulder can do no more than get scared and turn back. You can learn how to be successful in life from people like Abraham Lincoln and Donald Trump have been through the roughest phases of their life. But they never gave up. They ploughed on and on. And can they ever be forgotten? There are two ways to live life. One, a content life which will be forgotten by everyone when you die. And the other, you will die, but you will be remembered every single day for many years to come. Which life would you rather lead?

Let go of who you are. When you let go of who you are, you get that chance to be who you want to be. How can you ever know your destiny? If there is anything called destiny in the first place. But one thing is certain, it’s the little changes in life that pile up to make the big ones. I know my little changes, and it surprises me all the time. The man I am today didn’t wake up this morning. It was a long process that started in my younger years, when I took little steps off the beaten track. I never knew all that I did was leading me to what I am. But I did let go of who I was. I changed my personal destiny little by little. Do you love what you do? If you don’t, why are you doing it? Again, the big S word, security. That’s fine, but can’t you try to change your destiny just a little every day, so that a few years later, you can be exactly where you want to be?

It’s not easy to let go of the content life, especially when you have to take the next step blindfolded. But then, men and women of steel nerves and determination weren’t made in the clouds of happiness, they were molded in the blaze of blind darkness, through the deepest and darkest times of their lives. Let go of who you are, and be what you were meant to be.

Climb mountains. It is always darkest before dawn. The cliffs are the highest just before the vertex. Why would you want to stand at the bottom and dream of glories when all you need to do is take that next step into the skies and be successful in life? It’s not easy to take chances and take blind steps into the clouds, but it’s the belief in yourself that can bring miracles. And miracles don’t really exist anyways, it’s the way you subconsciously bring yourself to the point when you bump into a miracle that was just waiting for you in your path.

And when you climb mountains, you are bound to bump into miracles and into your worst fears, but ask the people who made it to the apex, they’ll tell you how sweet success can taste. And is it worth the effort to take that next step, especially when the path is so treacherous?

Well, you’d never know until you take that next step. And be what you were born to be. Take the magical path of positivity and you won’t just know how to be successful in life, you’ll have an experience of a lifetime.

Truly,
Marc